The conversation around the female G-spot and its alleged orgasmic capabilities – and the question of its existence – has been a hot topic for some time now; some believe it to be a real erogenous zone that exists within the body, while others deny its reality. Now, regardless of where you stand as to the female G-spot, one thing IS for sure: men have their own “G-spot.”
It’s the prostate, also known colloquially as the “P-spot.”
The Lowdown on the P-Spot: The Prostate Gland
At the heart of it all, lies the prostate: a walnut-sized gland that’s nestled beneath the bladder and the pelvic floor muscles, closely adjacent to the upper side of the penis and the top part of the urethra.
The prostate is your body’s factory of seminal fluid – which it creates and combines with sperm to create that milky white ejaculate better known as semen. During sexual arousal, the prostate enlarges, and for many men, applying pressure to the gland during sex can result in mind-blowing orgasms—or so they say. This pleasurable sensation (for some) is likely a result of the vast number of nerve endings found within the prostate itself.
Whatever you call it – whether you refer to it as the “P-spot” or the “male G-spot,” they refer to the same thing.
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Do men enjoy prostate stimulation?
We get it – the most pressing question about the prostate is what might happen when you apply a bit of pleasurable pressure to it. Is it really as pleasurable as some individuals might say?
The truth is, you’ll be surprised at how many men actually enjoy direct and indirect prostate stimulation, regardless of sexual orientation. However, there is this taboo of sorts surrounding the idea of getting anally penetrated, particularly for straight men. We get it.
But the thing is, attitudes about sex are loosening up based on what we can read on social media nowadays – and the stigma surrounding P-spot simulation is beginning to clear up.
Don’t get us wrong, though – prostate stimulation, while pleasurable for those who have experienced it, isn’t for everyone. It’s perfectly okay not to be into it, and it’s perfectly okay not to want to try it.
If you are interested, consider communicating to your partner about your interest in receiving prostate stimulation openly and honestly – after all, if you don’t ask, the answer is always “no.”
How do you stimulate the P-spot?
There are a number of approaches to applying pressure to your prostate gland. To start, you can stimulate your prostate gland from the exterior of your body, by gently pushing against the perineum (the area between your buttcrack and your ballsack). But for a more direct approach, you can try prostate massage, which can provide a more ecstasy-inducing experience.
Stimulating the P-Spot externally
External prostate stimulation can be toe-curlingly enjoyable for men who have experienced it. To induce this, you can use your fingers to rub and agitate the perineum region, or that region between your anus and your genitals.
Additionally, pushing against the anus without penetration can be a way to indirectly stimulate the male G-spot. This technique can be a great way to experience pure P-spot pleasure.
Stimulating the P-spot by massage
Want to go straight to the P-spot? Try a self-prostate massage.
And why not take your pleasure into your own hands – literally?
You can give yourself a prostate massage with just one or more of your fingers, pressing from the inside of your anus.
Or, if you’re comfortable using one, you can try a prostate massager to hit your pleasure spot from different angles.
If you’d rather have someone else do the work, invite your partner to delicately press the inside wall of your anus and target your prostate gland. Either way, you’ll be experiencing a whole new level of pleasure.
The so-called male G-spot can be found around an inch from the upper wall of your anus. It’s easy to reach by sticking a finger in to press a knob-shaped button – which leads to you making a (pleasurable) sound.
Locating the P-spot
The prostate gland can easily be located when you’re in a state of sexual arousal because it swells. That said, the P-spot is usually not hard to find if you’ve gotten a bit of “warm-up” before solo play.
If you’re ready to venture into a bit of prostate and ass play, it’s best to take it slow and not rush into things.
You can’t expect yourself to find the P-spot on your first try – but learning a safe way to explore it begins with lubricating your fingers and slowly massaging the outside of the anus.
When you’re ready, slowly insert one or two fingers, with your fingers pointing straight up in the direction of your navel. Try moving your fingers a little bit, as though you were gesturing or beckoning someone to come over.
You should feel a little knob-like gland the size of a small walnut that might make you feel the need to urinate when you stimulate it. That sensation is perfectly normal and understandable considering how close the male G-spot – or your prostate – is to the bladder.
That’s when you know you’re doing it right – continue applying very light pressure and/or begin stroking your prostate.
And voila! There you have your masterclass on finding and stimulating your P-spot. That wasn’t rocket science, was it?
And if you can experience the delights of discovering P-spot play, just think about what it can be with your sexual partner. Fortunately, you don’t have to overthink it – just have an open and honest talk about your, ahem, interest, and give it a shot. That’s literally all there is to it.
Ready to hike things up a notch with a partner? Follow the best practices for slow, steady, and safe P-spot playtime for two (or more):
- Ask your partner to massage and stroke your anus externally, ideally with as little pressure as possible.
- Feeling comfortable? Feeling good? Good. Then, ask your partner to stick a finger – taking extra care to do it bit by bit – and then revving it up from there based on how either of you are feeling.
Not ready to experiment with a plus one yet? Try some solo play and practice it while you masturbate, and let your partner know how it goes. Tell them what makes you feel good (or doesn’t), and take it from there. Always remember to take it slow and don’t feel forced into doing it unless you’re absolutely comfortable about it, rather than agonizing over it.
Enjoyed your first experience? Actively looking or curious with a bit of prostate play? Try experimenting with different angles from which to stimulate your prostate and mixing and matching the amount of speed and pressure while doing so.
If you’ve discovered that prostate stimulation is your new favorite jam, you may want to treat yourself to some sex toys like anal beads, anal vibrators, butt plugs, and strap-on dildos. Avoid using toys that are too small or without wide bases to avoid an embarrassing trip to the emergency room for medical attention and having doctors have to remove toys that have gone too far up your rectum.
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Prepping for P-spot playtime: best practices
Ready for some prostate play? Cool.
But before anything else, you need to ensure optimal hygiene before engaging in any sort of ass-play with or without a partner.
First, ensure that your anus and rectum are clean before playing, and wash your hands thoroughly and check for any cuts or open wounds before doing so.
Apply a bit of your preferred lubrication. And if you feel squeamish about sticking fingers and things up your rectum, wear sterile latex or nitrile examination gloves before doing so to ensure cleanliness. Use good quality lubricant because the anus cannot adequately lubricate itself for prolonged stimulation unlike a vagina could. Lubrication also prevents any unwanted injuries, making it easier for you to achieve a pleasurable experience.
The final word on prostate play
The male G-spot absolutely exists in the form of the prostate. It’s not a universal pleasure that every person shares – every man has their particular sexual needs and desires – but it can very well be a mind-blowing sexual pleasure if you find it pleasurable.
Whatever your stance is on getting a bit of P-spot play, remember that it’s okay not to enjoy things, and it’s okay to enjoy certain things. Whatever you do, do it safely – don’t rush, use a lot of lubrication, and always be hygienic.
